Definition of "Too Soon"
 

Okay, see, I just hooked up with singlehandedly the most awesome girl ever. I'm crazy in love with her and we're more or less on the same level. Trading I-Love-Yous at the end of every encounter with each other.

We hooked up beginning of July - heh, our first date was Transformers - and things moved really quickly, and now we've already agreed that, in a few months, when she moves about an hour away, I'm going to go down and start applying at places and trying to find a new job so I can go live with her.

Slight problem though: Just about everyone I talk to is telling me that we're moving to fast and that it's too soon. While I completely agree, trust me when I say that this has never felt so right. My rational side is conquered by the part of me that is just bonkers for this chick.

So therefore I ask a group of people whom, while know me, aren't so close of friends that they'll botch the answer to cater to what I want to hear. I want some people who are close enough, however, to make it sound less barbaric.

I need NPF!

Is there some sort of 'magic number' that you can think of that might be a good time between moving in with a girl?

At least 3 months after sex... When the glow of that wears off and you get to a daily grind and routine, then you have to start an actual relationship.

I always say just do whatever feels right. Rationality has no place!

Well, a love-crush can last anywhere from a few months to like, 20 years. And in my opinion, if you feel that it's great and she agrees, then go for it.

But you might want to make sure that you're job in the new town is better than the one in the old town. Just looking at it from a practical point of view.
A one hour trip is not a long-distance relationship, driving that distance takes about half an hour, so it will not be the worst thing if you can't find a job there instantaniously as you can more than easily see eachother frequently.

I have a friend whose parents got married a few months after they met each other, and it's lasted until her mother died - which I can safely say is 30 years plus.

You do sound like you're moving too fast. Go steady for 6 months, says I. Then, if everything is still peachy, consider moving it up a notch?

The thing is, people progress in relationships at different rates. Some girls I've been with want to move like maple syrup (1-2 years), others we're very close after 3 or 4 months, and some fall in the middle. It all comes down to compatibility, but to try and protect yourself from an emotional clusterfuck, use your rationality and slow yourself down just a little perhaps?

I think Demetrius is probably right on this one. Waiting longer could be a good idea, but it seems you two are really working well together.
The fuck?

I met my wife Two months before I moved in with her.

Mrai, when it is right, It feels right.
Just don't sweat the small arguments. They almost tore my relationship apart before we agreed that we were being stupid.

There is no magic number, I mean if you have enough in common, you have enough in common.

Oh, and FUCK your rationial side, it has no place in your love. XD

Good luck.

That's the whole problem in my books; love. The word is too easily deployed. While it can happen quickly, I'd say infatuation happens more often. Wait it out. The worst thing that can happen is you continue to be happy and develop your relationship more. Oh no?

Yeah seriously, there's no such thing as a global value for "too soon." If you have to crunch numbers, it's in all likelyhood more of a binary thing - you can live with someone or you can't. Do give it some thought beforehand, but if it's, like, you're at each other's all the time anyway, go for it.