Totally Mundane Thing That Noncontradictory Won't Tell Us Because He's Gay.
 

Has anyone ever had a deep, dark secret you couldn't even trust your friends with? Well, I was considering telling my most accepting friend, but now I know I can't even tell him. And if I can't tell him about it, who can I tell?

It hurts knowing that the thing you most wish you could just come out about and talk to someone about is the thing that you can't trust anyone with. I have never felt so alone.

Trust me, I know what you are going through, and it is hard. One day, I actually somehow got up the courage and just said it to me best friend. He didn't care too much, but he was a bit '... Wow, really?' Then he shared a horribly dark secret that he didn't tell anyone and I was all '... Wow, really?' and we became much closer friends.

We still don't talk about that subject though, simply knowing that we are both had dark secrets that we both told each other was good enough for us.

The point is, you should just say it to him, because he is your friend and you trust him, and he knows that. If he is a jokester he might poke fun at you every now and then but... Yeah, it won't be as bad as you think.

I'm positive about this. But don't tell your family >_>

Trust me, I can't tell him. He said outright that if he ever found out something like that about me, he would lose all his respect for me.

Then maybe he's not as close a friend as you think.

Trust me, I know EXACTLY how you feel right now.

It's good to know that there are people who know what I'm going through. And in response to Preturbed, I would take a bullet for this friend, but after he outright said he'd practically disown me, I just can't trust him with this. I can see where he's coming from. I don't blame him and I completely understand his side of things, but if I want him to keep considering me his friend, I have to hide this from him. And I know that everyone else would react worse. I would probably be asked to leave the house I'm living in right now. It may sound like I'm paranoid, and maybe I am, but to me this just feels like an obvious course of events.

What does this secret have to do with? trivial shit can become huge when you start talking about secrets, and without knowing what the heck you're talking about I can't offer any advice. I mean, if you slept with his sister that's bad, if you did drugs, not so good, if you stole something from him and defecated on his family grave site, then you probably shouldn't tell 'em. How serious is this man?

Drama happens but continually twisting about something isn't right.

Something bad happened to his family, but I wasn't involved. The same thing has actually happened to me, so I know what he's going through. However, if he knew this secret, he would categorize me as the same kind of person who caused the events. It's nothing illegal or anything like that, but that is the most detail I can go into.

Family stuff eh?

If its something your family is open about, I'd just tell them what was up and offer what help you can. Friendship shouldn't be superficial and often involves a lot of nasty shit. Sunshine and rainbows are for wedding speeches and funerals.

If your secret is a big lie you told, then, that's the problem of lying.. the more you go on, the worst is to come clean... and a lie only works as long as you can belive that you're telling the truth yourself...

But if it's not that... then you should really take it one day at a time... tomorrow it will be easier to hold on to that... and after that it will be easier...

I told some NASTY shit of my life to my Girlfriend, only to find out that she did something similar a few weeks AFTER i told her...

If you cant take, if you cant REALLY take that only for yourself, than at least some churches offer relief to people trying to vent out stuff like that... just find one far from home, at least, you have the option