Girlfirend Help!
 

I'm not sure where this would go, so I hope I got it right.


I need some serious help and quickly too. Not to put any pressure.

This is how it started. I did something fairly stupid, but on accident mind you, and it pissed her off at me. I apologized to no end as well. Up till now it has been an incredibly large down hill spiral. A very bad one. And right now, she has essential given up. She feels nothing, doesn't care, nothing. I understand it's from everything that is going on, from the rumors, parents, and me. It sucks hard. I'm trying hard to prove to her that I care, which she does not believe anymore in light of recent events. She really does not care, nor believes me. She keeps saying, "I don't know," and, "I don't care"

Any tips? I'm in a really bad pickle, and I want to get out of it quick. Frankly, I love her, and I feel miserable that she is like this, partly of my cause. Tomorrow, we're going to the conservatory and I fear this may be one of my few, if not last chances, to bring her out of it. If you have any tips, please help. Advice, anything to help. I am willing to do pretty much anything, barring getting on one knee...

Please help.:(

I have absolutely no idea what's going, what she's mad about, how long you've been going out, how serious you are/were, or even how old you are, I mean I've got absolutely zip to go on here.

That said, NMR, sometimes it's just over. I think you're better off accepting that than doing something crazy/stupid to try and "bring her out of it".

Edit: And if you want any real advice, you're probably going to have to provide a lot more information and background to fill up some of those plot holes.

The forum might not be the best place for relationship advice.

That said, I agree with DFM.

(Also, I just noticed, all of the people who have posted here have three capital letters for a name...)

Even though i agree that this might not be the proper place, not everysingle human problem has to be solved with a paid therapist o something like that... sometime just what is needed is some room to feel secure and talk, and maybe listen. Well, if you're aware that you're in a internet forum, then i guess there is no harm in going ahead with this

So... Sounds like you cheated on her and she found out... dont know how you did it by accident though.

...well, that's what you get from not giving us proper info if you're serious about getting help.

Either way, she is so mad with you, but still, she talks with you, see's you and it's even going to the conservatory alognside you tomorrow...

So, you, might just be a "girl thing" too...

Either way, all you can do is be true to YOUR heart and flat out tell her "I'm retarded and did a retarded thing. I KNOW this and i AM sorry. This and that it wont ever happen again is all i can give. Ball's in your court now"

And really, you'gonna have to accept her wishes too. You love her, ok. That dosent really imply that she loves you back. If she does, she will forgive you. If she dosent, you're better off anyway.

I would think this kind of discussion belongs in General, but that's for the mods to decide.

Sounds to me like you two could use some time apart. You both need your space in a situation like this and it might prove healthy in the relationship, and when you and her feel ready for another try in the relationship, all I can say is "best of luck".

I had a feeling that might happen. You can ask anything non-private naturally. Were both, around 16-18, me being the older one. We've been going out for almost 8 months, so this is my longest significant relationship. That anwsers another question, of the fact that this is a major relationship. We know we are two young to be engaged and stuff, but we have phisically discussed, alluded, the whole nine yards. I do have the intent to propose to her later.

For what she is mad about. It is hard to say mad. Mre like emotionless and distant. It happened last wensday, when I accidently bit her neck. We were just being silly mind you. It hurt and I apologized. Later on when I called her, yes I am a little obsesive, she got really mad at me. I told her that I checked and didn't see anything, when she asked. And then, it slowly degraded from there. She wouldn't talk to me, unless it was to hurt me. And it worked really well. That made me moody, unfortunanlty, as looking back I pushed were I could of stopped it, and I became really distant. And soon, she just kinda "gave up." She confused emotionally, and when I try to reason with her, all she says is "I don't know." I know what is happening as I experienced it before, but not to this level. I know me being my general heppy self around her helps. I was looking for some tips to help.

Oh and, if it wasn't meant to be, I still care to hell for her. She would still be my freind, seeing as this also affecting all her freindships. So, I'm prepared to split, but first I want to at least try. I may sound crazy, but I love her, and they stand strong.

So please, any more questions? I'll anwser any non-private ones, post haste.

EDIT: Thanks foe the advice. I am just worried. I did not cheat on her. She would kill me, not this.

EDIT2: Bells, I did say that! Several time in fact. I made my intentions clear that I would anything to help her.

EDIT3!: Gah to many edits. I am only asking for some tips, not psychiatrist advice. God knows what she'll do if I started trying to pry into her psyche.

She is being Childish. Or Is Childish.

Sorry man, but, that really is it.
Go against your instincts, dont be "little" obsessive (never good) and play out from there cool and centered.

Planning on that, Bells. I've got a few things to improve about myself, so this is gonna be an important thing on my part. I'm gong to drop the obsessive, till at least she gets back to normal, and I'm going to get a few other small things done. For instance, I say sorry way to much. She keeps telling me to stop.

And her being chilish sounds right, unfortunantly. She is one of the most mature people I know. She is more so than her parents, mother espescially.

Though got any tips to cheer her up? At least I can start fixing things when she feels better. I get her back to "normal" before anything can heppen.

So wait, you've been in a serious relationship with her for eight months and she completely detaches herself at the drop of a hat because you accidentally bit her neck?

Cheering her up is as simple as buying a present. Don't just get any present- get one you're sure will mean something to her.