Life
 

We all evolve over time, little leasons that life give us over time that just stick to us and change a bit of what we are.

This thread is for those little momments.

What momments in life you got those little tidbits of Epiphany and Wisdon that just makes you change paths?

I for one, at around my 17-18 years old just learned all by myself: "It dosent matter who you are, and what you do. At the end of the day, you only have your family to go back to. And if you can go back to your family, then you need to go back to yourself."

And also, a bit of Knoeledge that made me look differently on romance "Unless you plan to live for the rest of your life with the person you're with, you eventually will break up... so, make peace with the facts and enjoy what you can. Just dont forget to look ahead and maybe plan some future beyond"

I learned when I was 11 that it really doesn't matter what most people think of you. You won't even see them 5 years down the road.

While starting out my first job, a cook in a very busy fast food restaurant in which I was doing terrible, I was pondering to myself why I wasn't really that fast and that I wasn't a really good worker, and those thoughts kept rolling through my head for a few hours.

Then someone yelled at me and they told me that I almost singlehandedly cleared the friday dinner rush, everyone else was standing back because I apparently moved too fast and randomnly, and they didn't want me to hit them. After my shift they were just all "How did this loser get so fast?" and praised me left and right, and so, from then on I was one of the hardest workers there, and I put my all into things important to me.

For the record, I really do have random body movements when I'm really into working, it's like I'm dancing.

Probably not the most exciting thing, but in the past year or so I've started coming out of my shell. I've always been rather shy and subdued in public, but since starting university I've grown more and more outgoing. I'm still quiet, of course, but not as much.

Also, a few years ago I suddenly realized that I could draw noses better than I used to. It was pretty exciting. :p

My epiphany was nothing special. Over the past couple of years, after spending nearly three decades seeking other people's approval, I learned that I am who I am. Trying to fit everyone's ideal was costing me a lot of time, energy, and effort, and wasn't getting the results I'd hoped for. The realization gave me a new outlook towards other people, the everyday people who make up the majority of this planet, the ones not in my family and who would not take me as I am.

In short: F**k them all. I have better things to waste my time on.

I've had two life-changing epiphanies.

Epiphany number one: shortly after I turned fifteen, I came to the realization that human beings, by and large, suck. Almost all people are selfish, judgmental bastards who, once after having used you for their self-gain, will just as quickly abandon you in the dust. I learned that, in order to survive in my world, I had to learn to rely on myself before I rely on anyone else, for just because somebody says he's your "friend", doesn't automatically mean that he really is. This dominated my way of thinking until shortly after I turned twenty-one.

Epiphany number two: shortly after I turned twenty-one, I realized that, although there are a lot of bad people in the world, there is still a good number of good people; people who are not selfish, who are not judgmental, and who can stay loyal to you unconditionally. I still think we need to be able to rely on ourselves, but there are times when we must turn to somebody we can trust to help us in our times of need, and in these times, you realize that there is nothing; nothing better in the world than somebody you can trust entirely. And what of the bad people? Even if somebody was bad in the past, doesn't mean they will automatically be bad in the future. Redemption is not impossible. This is what I go by now.

When I was 14 I learned how lucky I am to have a roof over my head and a meal every night, and I quit being such a selfish little prig to everyone and everything.

When I was 15 I learned that everything good ends at a certain point, and chances are it never comes back. That's when I started smoking pot.

Last year, I learned to expect the worst, because if you do, all your surprises are good. Also, I quit smoking pot. =)

This year, I learned about fluffer-nutters. Oh my god. It's like heaven in the form of a goddamn sammich. Also, that politics suck. BIG TIME.

A little upsetting/gross/mature, so censored...

.... last night, I learned that hearing your roommate have sex in the dark in the room when she thinks you're asleep is extremely uncomfortable, and also that sex sounds WAY more wet and gross than I ever thought.

I alternate between these two almost every day.

After my divorce I learned that in 20 years, I'll won't care that I ever went through it. I apply this to most things petty in nature nowdays. Its made me a much happier person since I don't sweat the small stuff (and a really large chunk of the big stuff).

Until I was 17 I was very shy and kept to myself. I only get more outgoing and obnoxious every year.

After I turned 18 (I was emancipated and lived on my own for the second half of my 17th year) I realized I really didn't know as much as I thought.

I'm still working on being too proud to ask for help when I really, really need it.