[Melfice]

Equal military, research and intelligence.
I'd tip the scale toward research, actually, but just slightly.

Be aggressive in the beginning to settle in, then make the statement "alliance or death" (I know that's not really possible, but you know. Offer it, and if they refuse, you wage war).

All ship-classes to be named after the nations of Earth? Sound good?
Unless we're not playing humans. Or custom-create humans, at least.
... wait, shit. Are humans even in this game? It's been aeons since I last played.

EDIT: And with everything near equality, of course I mean you only research the military stuff to install on our armadas.