Ah those are valid concerns though I want to ask...what do you mean by Grinding? Cause the only thing you really need to grind for is ISK in EVE. You learn skills in real time and just fly around. I myself am learning some standard fleet fits before diving head long into Covert Ops.
Also, about the assholes that sometimes populate the game...I am one of them and my specialization I am finding is HUNTING the other Assholes who make life difficult for other players...
...like this guy. This player suicide ganks for fun and sport...blowing up people's ships and pods just because he finds it fun to ruin someone's day in the hope the Loot Fairy will be kind to him...he got on the receiving end as the first Combat Engagement of the Harekaze.
https://zkillboard.com/kill/55860941/