"Christmas With The Family" or "Fuck You, You Fucking Fuckers!"

Seil · 12-28-2014, 02:09 AM

Go Go Gadget family arguments.

Many of you are aware that I know how to find Youtube links and other stuff online. This is partly due to the fact that I spend quite a lot of time on my computer. I stay inside - partly because I live a very small town where the dating/social/bar scene is smaller than small, and partly because fuck other people.

I just find most people incredibly... awful. All sorts of labels I could attach - I just don't really care. But I've got this fantastic need for fulfillment. I want to do stuff. I want people to notice me. I just want things to go according to plan. My plan. The plan where I don't have to dance on a dance floor with tens of sweaty other people. I don't want to go out for drinks because I either won't have anything to talk about and end up getting drunk, or I'll get drunk and dominate the conversation with non-sequiturs.

I just don't feel the need to self flagellate by... being social. (Here's where I say "Fuck You." to my brother vicariously.) I don't want to do that. That sounds like a bad time. It sounds like you're judging my life as wrong because I'm not doing what you think is fun. You think going out is fun, and because I don't, I'm wrong - I'm broken. You're judging me on a personal bias. Well, fuck you. (Vicariously.)

Fuck you.

I don't have to socialize with you either. I'm sure that stung, you living hundreds of miles away.

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So, am I a weirdo loser shut in?

Red Mage Black · 12-28-2014, 08:57 AM

I'd tell you no, but that might be hypocritical due to the fact I'm also a loser shut-in by some societal standards, but that's also because I lack a general empathy for society at large, so for a different reason than you. That or it could simply be the subjective opinion of others. As a rule of mine, "Let others do what they think is fun as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else," it doesn't mean I agree with their beliefs or choices, just that I know that nothing I say won't be of my own subjective opinion and won't stop them from doing it.

Not everyone is built to be outgoing. I don't think there's anything wrong with being more reserved and thinking about actions before taking them. Especially if it's a situation you probably wouldn't be in in the first place unless you put yourself there. I believe there's a thing called 'over thinking' that I'm overly guilty of. Risk assessment is also a thing that isn't just for insurance companies.

This whole thing probably isn't very helpful, so I apologize. Maybe someone more sociable can weigh in?

pochercoaster · 12-28-2014, 12:33 PM

Calling someone "broken" because they're introverted is crossing a line, IMO. I'm sorry your brother is being a jerk to you.

The bar scene isn't fun unless you go with existing friends. For meeting people it sucks. Plus, some people don't like drinking or can't drink- for a variety of reasons- and that's okay. Also bars and clubs aren't that cool. They're noisy, sticky, smelly places filled with obnoxious drunk strangers. (Well, -those- kinds of bars are like that. Maybe there's some decent pubs out there.)

You work, right, Seil? IMO, as long as you still interact with people/get out through work you're okay. Someone who doesn't work living alone and spending 24/7 inside on the computer might be cause for alarm, even from introvert standards, but even so that doesn't mean you should call the other person "broken."

I'm a shut-in. I only see my husband and my co-workers. It's not because I dislike people- I just don't have the energy for them. I've also been told I'm abnormal for it. Whatever, it's my life, not anyone else's, so why live it according to someone else's standards?

12-28-2014, 02:09 AM	#1
Seil Super stressed! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: British Columbia Posts: 8,081	"Christmas With The Family" or "Fuck You, You Fucking Fuckers!" Go Go Gadget family arguments. Many of you are aware that I know how to find Youtube links and other stuff online. This is partly due to the fact that I spend quite a lot of time on my computer. I stay inside - partly because I live a very small town where the dating/social/bar scene is smaller than small, and partly because fuck other people. I just find most people incredibly... awful. All sorts of labels I could attach - I just don't really care. But I've got this fantastic need for fulfillment. I want to do stuff. I want people to notice me. I just want things to go according to plan. My plan. The plan where I don't have to dance on a dance floor with tens of sweaty other people. I don't want to go out for drinks because I either won't have anything to talk about and end up getting drunk, or I'll get drunk and dominate the conversation with non-sequiturs. I just don't feel the need to self flagellate by... being social. (Here's where I say "Fuck You." to my brother vicariously.) I don't want to do that. That sounds like a bad time. It sounds like you're judging my life as wrong because I'm not doing what you think is fun. You think going out is fun, and because I don't, I'm wrong - I'm broken. You're judging me on a personal bias. Well, fuck you. (Vicariously.) Fuck you. I don't have to socialize with you either. I'm sure that stung, you living hundreds of miles away. ---------- Post added at 11:09 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:56 PM ---------- So, am I a weirdo loser shut in? Last edited by Seil; 12-28-2014 at 04:35 AM.

12-28-2014, 08:57 AM	#2
Red Mage Black Sent to the cornfield Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Where the Sun isn't so warm. Posts: 2,673	I'd tell you no, but that might be hypocritical due to the fact I'm also a loser shut-in by some societal standards, but that's also because I lack a general empathy for society at large, so for a different reason than you. That or it could simply be the subjective opinion of others. As a rule of mine, "Let others do what they think is fun as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else," it doesn't mean I agree with their beliefs or choices, just that I know that nothing I say won't be of my own subjective opinion and won't stop them from doing it. Not everyone is built to be outgoing. I don't think there's anything wrong with being more reserved and thinking about actions before taking them. Especially if it's a situation you probably wouldn't be in in the first place unless you put yourself there. I believe there's a thing called 'over thinking' that I'm overly guilty of. Risk assessment is also a thing that isn't just for insurance companies. This whole thing probably isn't very helpful, so I apologize. Maybe someone more sociable can weigh in?

12-28-2014, 12:33 PM	#3
pochercoaster rollerpocher tycoon Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 1,808	Calling someone "broken" because they're introverted is crossing a line, IMO. I'm sorry your brother is being a jerk to you. The bar scene isn't fun unless you go with existing friends. For meeting people it sucks. Plus, some people don't like drinking or can't drink- for a variety of reasons- and that's okay. Also bars and clubs aren't that cool. They're noisy, sticky, smelly places filled with obnoxious drunk strangers. (Well, -those- kinds of bars are like that. Maybe there's some decent pubs out there.) You work, right, Seil? IMO, as long as you still interact with people/get out through work you're okay. Someone who doesn't work living alone and spending 24/7 inside on the computer might be cause for alarm, even from introvert standards, but even so that doesn't mean you should call the other person "broken." I'm a shut-in. I only see my husband and my co-workers. It's not because I dislike people- I just don't have the energy for them. I've also been told I'm abnormal for it. Whatever, it's my life, not anyone else's, so why live it according to someone else's standards?