Dating

[Bob The Mercenary]

The other night me and a few friends from work went to a dance club. After getting a few drinks in me I found out that I do actually have some sort of hidden dancing ability that only comes out once my BAC reaches a certain level. Sort of an alcoholic kaoken.

After a while, this girl I like from work pulls me onto the dance floor and starts grinding on me. She is very drunk at this point so I'm not going to assume she has a thing for me just because the beer goggles told her to ravish me. However I found it was an icebreaker of epic proportions and now I'm finally considering asking her out.

Now, I've been told by some people "ask her out for a drink, nothing fancy" and by others "workplace relationships are bad business." I really do not want to screw this up, either by letting her go and never really knowing or she saying no and every workday being an awkward hell from 9 to 5. She's extremely polite so I know that she won't go off on me if I'm too forward. I'm just not sure what to do.

[Lumenskir]

Don't act on it. Just act as your normally do, planning on the fact that she'll eventually come to the same conclusion that you are at right now. It'll all work out.

[Nikose Tyris]

That's terrible advice, Lumen.

Go for it. Just ask her if she's busy tonight, offer to take her for lunch one day. Something light and easy, where there's no expectations attached.

[Bob The Mercenary]

The thing about asking her to lunch, if I do that it will be so obvious that we both went out of the building at the same time. She usually never leaves for lunch, just eats it there. And there's this thing I have about workplace gossip.

Another thing is she recently broke up with her ex. A few weeks have gone by, but I'm still thinking it might be too early. I might just wait until July when we go back to the club.

[Nikose Tyris]

Those who wait never get the date, Bob.

Fuck gossip, and fuck the waiting period. 3 weeks IS my waiting period. Don't back off or you're gonna end up with a 'what if' regret instead of "Damn, I'm stupid" regret.

And frankly, looking like an idiot is a lot better then living with doubt.

[krogothwolf]

I 100% agree with Nikose. Take life by the horns mate! go for the broke! I almost never got my wife cause I nearly waited to long to act.

[Rejected Again]

I agree with the above 2 posts.

On Workplace relationships. I work with 3 happily married couples that met at my place of work. Fuck gossip, swallow anything holding you back and just ask her out. Worst thing that happens, she says no.

[Bob The Mercenary]

Where to ask her out to though. Everyone says something different but the general consensus seems to be someplace very public and not too pricey. Like an Applebees or something. I've even had Dunkin Donuts suggested to me.

Can you tell how very experienced I am?

[Marc v4.0]

Applebees seems nice enough

[krogothwolf]

Applebees should be good. If it's sorta like the Keg.