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Serious question here. When is it okay to let someone know that they suck at something they love doing? Not just "Oh, I don't like it" but actual "Holy shit, kill it with fire" bad. Is it alright to tell someone that they should probably try another less offensive hobby?
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Derrrrrrrrrrrrrp.
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I'm not sure I'm allowed to say my answer.
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I don't really think it's ever polite. Even if they're terrible, they'll end up equating the loss of a favored activity with you.
You could try suggesting something else, though. Or let it out slowly, and have them catch on. They might be hurt then, but there is some hope of catching back up with them. |
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Archer and Armstrong vs. the World
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RESIST...URGE...TO...SNARK...
Okay, I'll be serious about this. Listen, if it's just a hobby and they suck at it, what's the purpose of telling them they suck if they genuinely love it? Being good at this hobby isn't even apparently a prerequisite to deriving joy from it so who cares? All you'll do is harsh their mellow, brah. Unless their hobby is like, cooking, and they are forcing you to eat horribly burned crap, or something. Because in that case criticism could help them get better. Like constructive criticism is great and all, if criticizing helps. If there's no real purpose to telling them they suck, though, then you are just being mean. If you want to get into more specifics on what exactly the situation is, though, then that may change things.
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I like to write and a lot of my friends like to write. I don't consider myself to be that good of a writer by any stretch of the imagination but I know people that are worse. And they refuse to edit or address constructive criticism. I honestly would like to help these friends of mine but what can you really do when they won't let you? Is it "When Sevenshot starts a new thread"?
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NOTICE MEEEEEE
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If they ask you, "Hey, would you mind going through and critiquing this for me?" and then you ask "Do you want me to be brutally honest in my critique?" and they say "Yes." then you can completely get away with telling someone that they suck, as long as you explain in simple, inoffensive language why it sucks, and how they could improve it.
I have never lost a friend using this method. |
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That's so PC of you
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But they all secretly resent you for it...
ahem... Anyway, it's a matter of POV. If they are in the hobby cause they like it, no use in pointing out bad flaws. If they are in it with a goal to be good at it, honest critique might be good (when clearly requested). Now, if YOU have the same hobby as your friend and you noticed problems in his work, then, just going "oh good work man, that's pretty nice" is kinda dickish too . My method? Look for 2 positives to say for every negative. Even if they are not equivalent... it softens the blow. |
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*I realize this is beating a dead horse, but I still think the Twilight novels sound like she was writing her own girlish fantasy. Placing Bella in the position she was suppose to be in. It's vampire/werewolf fanfiction in novel form. |
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NOTICE MEEEEEE
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Naw, I can see that little something die in their eyes when I tell them I didn't like something they wrote.
That also tends to work for me. Especially if you start with the positive and work into the negative. |
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Lakitu
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You are allowed to tell someone they suck if you're not getting enough pleasure from their blowjob.
All other situations are sub-optimal. |
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