Drgon got dumped - Page 3

POS Industries · 09-11-2010, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DarkDrgon

excuse me sir.

I am fly

You were great in Superbad.

Funny People sucked, though. You should be ashamed.

Darth SS · 09-11-2010, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by DarkDrgon

unfortunately, I can't get any more Dubi. which sucks, since hes my favorite on the team right now besides Hank. So most of the things I had are his, and from her.

I'm sure you can probably get some Gomez stuff on the cheap now.

But anyways, what I found helped me the most when me and my girlfriend broke up about a year and a half ago was that I just found an old hobby, dusted it off, and just completely rededicated to it. In my case, it was my love of martial arts, so I just buried myself in the gym, in training, and in my school work. I slowly worked in social interaction. As a result, I'm fitter, I'm more focused, my marks are better, and most of all I'm happy.

I mean this also corresponded with the tail end of what I call my "bitch phase." Which in this case entailed trying to figure out what went wrong, what was wrong with me, and how I could fix it. Don't be like me, and don't do any of that. Straighten your back, put your chin up, it is what it is. If she thinks that you "aren't compatible," then that's her decision, but understand she doesn't not get you as a plan B. There is no "exploring options," and if she comes back you tell her to just keep walking. You should never settle for being plan B.

Jagos · 09-11-2010, 03:44 PM

Ok, seriously, there were signs that this was coming...

Let's think backwards, what did she say or do that seems completely out of character or comes up?

DarkDrgon · 09-11-2010, 06:27 PM

the only time I noticed something was wrong was our date before she called me, she seemed distant. I've been thinking it over all day/night and thats really the only thing I came up with.

CABAL49 · 09-11-2010, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by DarkDrgon

the only time I noticed something was wrong was our date before she called me, she seemed distant. I've been thinking it over all day/night and thats really the only thing I came up with.

Yeah...don't do that. I have been through bad breakups before and you are going to think about what you could have done differently. Don't do that! It is a waste of time and results in nothing. Don't think about what you might have done wrong. Just think about how you are going to make your present situation better.

On another note, I always keep a bottle of whiskey in my desk in case of emergencies.

Hanuman · 09-12-2010, 07:39 PM

I'm going to make up a story.
She saw how you and her could be awesome together, she let herself get in a relationship with you and found out that you're a pretty alright guy, you can do something awesome, you have a few flaws but thats cool, no big.
After a while, she only later realizes that she is having to be in a mode she is not 100% comfortable with maintaining, and eventually will have to release the pressure, regardless of how awesome you are, regardless of any flaws, she just needs something that fits her mode better.
No one is at fault, no one is wrong.

Aldurin · 09-12-2010, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Lev

I'm going to make up a story.
She saw how you and her could be awesome together, she let herself get in a relationship with you and found out that you're a pretty alright guy, you can do something awesome, you have a few flaws but thats cool, no big.
After a while, she only later realizes that she is having to be in a mode she is not 100% comfortable with maintaining, and eventually will have to release the pressure, regardless of how awesome you are, regardless of any flaws, she just needs something that fits her mode better.
No one is at fault, no one is wrong.

Quit trying to make this a blameless story. Either drgon was unwittingly an asshole toward his girlfriend or his gf was a bitch for dumping him.

bluestarultor · 09-12-2010, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by EvilEarl

Quit trying to make this a blameless story. Either drgon was unwittingly an asshole toward his girlfriend or his gf was a bitch for dumping him.

Gotta agree with this here. Over a year is a REALLY long time to take to figure out there's no chemistry or some habit(s) that would render them unfit to pair up.

There's either something else at work that's been going on for a long time and that she's been somehow hiding for ages or there was some single or few events that changed her mind recently.

Either way, I wouldn't be surprised if she's with another guy very soon. If it's been a long time, she may have had another one scoped out. If it's more short-term than she'd like to admit, she may go for a rebound.

Regardless, if she comes running back right away, it's going to be trouble.

Hanuman · 09-12-2010, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by EvilEarl

Quit trying to make this a blameless story. Either drgon was unwittingly an asshole toward his girlfriend or his gf was a bitch for dumping him.

History has continuously shown that in an A or B situation it's usually neither, that ideas of conviction are self pity are flaws of the individual, and that people just generally want to be happy.

I believe that love is wanting people to be happy, regardless of the level of bitchiness, and in relationships sometimes you trust in that, even if it means leaving.

pochercoaster · 09-12-2010, 10:50 PM

Pardon me, but I don't think it's really possible to asses whether anyone is at fault without more details. A year is not a long time. People's priorities change, particularly if they're young. Maybe she was bored, maybe she was wronged by DarkDrgn somehow, maybe she's a bitch, maybe she doesn't know what she wants. You can't really extract this just from the length of time they dated, though.

Dragon, I'm sorry to hear that you were dumped so suddenly. I hope you're able to move on with your life comfortably soon.

Edit: Ninja'd. For once, I agree with Lev.

09-11-2010, 03:44 PM	#23
Jagos FRONT KICK OF DOOM! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Howdy pardner... Posts: 6,399	Ok, seriously, there were signs that this was coming... Let's think backwards, what did she say or do that seems completely out of character or comes up? __________________ Copyright musings World ramblings Scifi stories

09-11-2010, 06:27 PM	#24
DarkDrgon Always Trick Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 978	the only time I noticed something was wrong was our date before she called me, she seemed distant. I've been thinking it over all day/night and thats really the only thing I came up with. __________________ [color=red] Kneel before the Lord Drgon, or you will be knelt.

09-12-2010, 07:39 PM	#26
Hanuman Love Is Strength Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Vancouver/BC/Canada Posts: 1,135	I'm going to make up a story. She saw how you and her could be awesome together, she let herself get in a relationship with you and found out that you're a pretty alright guy, you can do something awesome, you have a few flaws but thats cool, no big. After a while, she only later realizes that she is having to be in a mode she is not 100% comfortable with maintaining, and eventually will have to release the pressure, regardless of how awesome you are, regardless of any flaws, she just needs something that fits her mode better. No one is at fault, no one is wrong.

09-12-2010, 10:50 PM	#30
pochercoaster rollerpocher tycoon Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 1,808	Pardon me, but I don't think it's really possible to asses whether anyone is at fault without more details. A year is not a long time. People's priorities change, particularly if they're young. Maybe she was bored, maybe she was wronged by DarkDrgn somehow, maybe she's a bitch, maybe she doesn't know what she wants. You can't really extract this just from the length of time they dated, though. Dragon, I'm sorry to hear that you were dumped so suddenly. I hope you're able to move on with your life comfortably soon. Edit: Ninja'd. For once, I agree with Lev.