Stay Single and you. will. be. screwed

[POS Industries]

Originally Posted by Kyanbu The Legend

So I should take the chance of meeting someone?

Depends on how much you hate other people. Would you rather have a longer life of dealing with somebody else's bullshit all day every day, or would you prefer a shorter life where you don't?

[Kyanbu The Legend]

That is a very tough choice for me.

[BloodyMage]

Or you can stay single, come on a forum and deal with other people's bullshit anyway?

I don't know, it seems to depend on the person anyway. From the article it sounds like if you make it through your thirties the chances are you'll live as long as your married friends anyway. So just be healthy til 40.

[POS Industries]

Originally Posted by BloodyMage

Or you can stay single, come on a forum and deal with other people's bullshit anyway?

I assure you, dealing with the bullshit of people on the other side of the internet that you can just totally ignore if it suits you is totally different than actually having the person there when you wake up every morning, go to bed every night, and a large chunk of the time in between.

It takes a special sort of person to live in that type of arrangement where you don't eventually start thinking of ways to murder one another, which is the magical experience we call twoo luv, and it's pretty much damn near impossible to find that person, statistically speaking.

[Kyanbu The Legend]

I'm pretty laid back so there's the chance I may be fine.

[Darth SS]

Originally Posted by BloodyMage

I don't know, it seems to depend on the person anyway. From the article it sounds like if you make it through your thirties the chances are you'll live as long as your married friends anyway. So just be healthy til 40.

As soon as 40 hits it's tequila shots and cigars for everyone.

I worry though that this study could be making the same fallacy that "People with pets are healthier" makes. Has it established that somehow a relationship induces you to living longer? Or that the kinds of people who have the characteristics that predispose them to long-term relationships somehow have the characteristics to live longer?


I know that for me personally, I can say that in my own experience this kind of makes sense. I know for me the amount I go to the gym and what I eat is usually unrelated to relationship status, instead relating more to how active my lifestyle is at that time. But otherwise, in regards to stress and how I handle stress, I am clearly healthier whilst in a relationship.

When single, I get pissed off or freaked out a lot easier, generally owing to feeling more insecure than usual. I go out partying with friends all the time, and as a result I drink a ton and smoke occasionally. After the inevitable crippling stress of school knocks me down a peg, my immediate response is usually four ounces of scotch, occasionally leading to more than four ounces. There's also more nights when I just say "Fuck it, ice cream is dinner."

When in a relationship, I'm a lot less insecure because I have newfound confidence. While I do still go out partying sometimes, there will be a lot of times when someone will call and I'll already have plans. I have another outlet for stress, either having someone who kind of crushes it, or furious anger sex. Yes, it's a thing. More than anything, I just drink less, I do less stupid stuff, and I'm less stressed out.

Will these trends carry out for the rest of my life? Well, I guess I'll figure that out when I get there. However, it doesn't seem unreasonable, based on my experience.

[Overcast]

Did we ever tell you not to?

[Kyanbu The Legend]

You have a point there.

[Amake]

Being in a romantic relationship isn't going to save your life. It's living with one or preferably several people that satisfies your socializing needs, improves your economy and averts situations like being stuck in your bed with a terminal fever and having no way of getting help. SomehowDue to overwhelming propaganda espousing the nuclear family ideal we have reduced the concept of roommates to be exclusive to the young and clueless. It might take some work to get along with people in what you're conditioned to think of as the privacy of your home, but probably less than doing the same with someone with whom you're determined to have regular sex for the rest of your lives.

Just saying, it's an option.

[Professor Smarmiarty]

It's like smoking. You'll die earlier but you'll also die happier. And shit the way we going the world is going to be pretty terrible in our ater years. Better to just kick it while its stil good.