Drgon got dumped - Page 4

DarkDrgon · 09-12-2010, 10:57 PM

everything i've seen shows me shes not happy. our mutual friends say shes as miserable as i am.

all i've heard from those friends is that she keeps saying "our time's up", then breaking down crying.

@pocheros: As of right now, Im not finished until I know some more, and I honestly feel I have a right to. I'm fully aware that if her mind is made up I'll just have to deal, but thats what the friday night parties are for. I honestly, not even bullshitting for forum cred cause like my OP said Im mainly a voiceless face here, treated her like gold. I knew I had an amazing thing going, and did everything in my power to keep her happy. If that wasn't good enough for her I'll just have to change my standards.

and It's Drgon. not Dragon.

bluestarultor · 09-12-2010, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by pocheros

Pardon me, but I don't think it's really possible to asses whether anyone is at fault without more details. A year is not a long time. People's priorities change, particularly if they're young. Maybe she was bored, maybe she was wronged by DarkDrgn somehow, maybe she's a bitch, maybe she doesn't know what she wants. You can't really extract this just from the length of time they dated, though.

Dragon, I'm sorry to hear that you were dumped so suddenly. I hope you're able to move on with your life comfortably soon.

Edit: Ninja'd. For once, I agree with Lev.

The issue is that Drgon doesn't have any more details than we do, or else he would have been able to look back and see it coming. Hindsight is 20/20.

I'm just saying if it was really a long time in coming, she kept it hidden pretty well. Stuff like that happens. People wait things out to see if they get better and sometimes they just don't.

I didn't try to assign blame to either party. Maybe he was a jerk to her, maybe she was bored, etc., just like you said. What I DID disagree with is that there's no blame to be had. (Also speculate on her future prospects, which was wrong of me in retrospect, but that was still supposed to be speculation. I was not trying to indicate Drgon got dumped for another guy.)

No end of a relationship is blameless. Someone did something enough that someone else ended things. Whether that was a year of being boring or a single instance of blowing up their house is just the detail. Or hell, even a year of blowing up their house. Some people are tolerant.

The point is that Drgon is suffering because she's not giving him any hints, which is about the top cruel thing you can do when you break it off with someone. It stings when you have the list of your flaws read off to you for an hour, but not knowing is a venom that will drive you crazy and hurt for much longer.

Darth SS · 09-12-2010, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by bluestarultor

The point is that Drgon is suffering because she's not giving him any hints, which is about the top cruel thing you can do when you break it off with someone. It stings when you have the list of your flaws read off to you for an hour, but not knowing is a venom that will drive you crazy and hurt for much longer.

I would like to put out there I cannot possibly disagree with you more. Sometimes you just really don't want to know what happened. If you get read a list of your flaws you will try to "fix" them, when you should be giving yourself a small boost and getting on with your life.

DarkDrgon · 09-12-2010, 11:33 PM

seeing as I feel like nothing Went wrong until I got the call, I'd rather know. even if I get a list of flaws, I'm not changing myself. as I said, I just feel like I have a right to know.

bluestarultor · 09-13-2010, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by DarkDrgon

seeing as I feel like nothing Went wrong until I got the call, I'd rather know. even if I get a list of flaws, I'm not changing myself. as I said, I just feel like I have a right to know.

^ Pretty much my point.

I really don't even see what's wrong with trying to fix some of your flaws. Obviously, if you obsess over it, that's not healthy, but then if you're obsessing that badly over "perfecting" yourself to one person's standards when they no longer matter, YOU'RE not healthy. And a lot of times, you don't even consider them flaws. Half of the "flaws" I displayed in my maiden voyage into the market amounted to being a gentleman. She just didn't want the treatment. Other girls would have reveled in it.

If you're left dangling and would otherwise try to fix the complaints, you're probably going to go and try to fix yourself anyway, only it'll be more frustrating because you won't even know what's wrong.

Basically, there's no downside to knowing if you're at all confident in yourself as a person, and if you're not, maybe that's the first flaw you should fix.

Jagos · 09-13-2010, 01:29 AM

Guys...

No. It didn't work out for whatever reason. If you press her too hard, you may damage the relationship to a point that it'll always be awkward with her.

The best advice I can say is that you want to move on without her. She wasn't right for you, that's her deal. I won't recommend dating her sister or anything but there's more fish out in the sea than people that you need to fix.

Besides that, what you may fix to be the perfect man for ONE girl, may not be what you need to do for another. So it comes down to Dragon accepting himself. I understand you want to know, but it'll come out when it comes out. Same thing happened to me a while back and I understand it. Don't agree with everything she said but hey, it's how she felt, not me. We're good friends now so... Yeah.

Krylo · 09-13-2010, 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Jagos

I won't recommend dating her sister or anything

Unless her sister is, like, really hot.

Edit: And quit seriousin' up/dramain' up mah boardz.

Drgon handled this just about perfectly already. He got sauced, listened to music, and made regrettable life choices (making this thread, posting a picture of himself). He's well on the way to recovery. Stop trying to tell the dude what to do.

Now, I say, 'just about perfectly', because there are far better regrettable life choices he could have made while sauced, but, hey, no one's perfect.

Except me.

Darth SS · 09-13-2010, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Krylo

Unless her sister is, like, really hot.

Quoted for truth. Just...so much truth.

One of my favourite Glee lines of all time is "Have you ever heard of anger sex?" "It's all I do." I feel that line is oddly applicable in this circumstance.

Nique · 09-13-2010, 10:41 AM

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made regrettable life choices ... making this thread, posting a picture of himself

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hey, no one's perfect.
... Except me.

Hoho! Oh my I needed a laugh today. Pretty sure there have been sum Krylo pictures in one of our camwhore threads.

Krylo · 09-13-2010, 10:42 AM

The difference is that I'm pretty.

Edit: Like a delicate flower, too beautiful for this harsh world.

09-12-2010, 10:57 PM	#31
DarkDrgon Always Trick Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 978	everything i've seen shows me shes not happy. our mutual friends say shes as miserable as i am. all i've heard from those friends is that she keeps saying "our time's up", then breaking down crying. @pocheros: As of right now, Im not finished until I know some more, and I honestly feel I have a right to. I'm fully aware that if her mind is made up I'll just have to deal, but thats what the friday night parties are for. I honestly, not even bullshitting for forum cred cause like my OP said Im mainly a voiceless face here, treated her like gold. I knew I had an amazing thing going, and did everything in my power to keep her happy. If that wasn't good enough for her I'll just have to change my standards. and It's Drgon. not Dragon. __________________ [color=red] Kneel before the Lord Drgon, or you will be knelt.

09-12-2010, 11:33 PM	#34
DarkDrgon Always Trick Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 978	seeing as I feel like nothing Went wrong until I got the call, I'd rather know. even if I get a list of flaws, I'm not changing myself. as I said, I just feel like I have a right to know. __________________ [color=red] Kneel before the Lord Drgon, or you will be knelt.

09-13-2010, 01:29 AM	#36
Jagos FRONT KICK OF DOOM! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Howdy pardner... Posts: 6,399	Guys... No. It didn't work out for whatever reason. If you press her too hard, you may damage the relationship to a point that it'll always be awkward with her. The best advice I can say is that you want to move on without her. She wasn't right for you, that's her deal. I won't recommend dating her sister or anything but there's more fish out in the sea than people that you need to fix. Besides that, what you may fix to be the perfect man for ONE girl, may not be what you need to do for another. So it comes down to Dragon accepting himself. I understand you want to know, but it'll come out when it comes out. Same thing happened to me a while back and I understand it. Don't agree with everything she said but hey, it's how she felt, not me. We're good friends now so... Yeah. __________________ Copyright musings World ramblings Scifi stories

09-13-2010, 10:42 AM	#40
Krylo The Straightest Shota Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: It's a secret to everybody. Posts: 17,789	The difference is that I'm pretty. Edit: Like a delicate flower, too beautiful for this harsh world. __________________ I am very tired.