This is pathetic

Osterbaum · 08-17-2010, 03:27 PM

What is pathetic you ask. The fact that I am about to ask for opinions from you guys about my personal life. Why is that pathetic? Let's just say that the answer lies within in ourselves.

I am afraid to say this matter is rather serious. Atleast for me, atleast at the moment. Not so serious that I don't want to see any half-assed jokes in this thread though. In any case, and at the risk of seeming whiny and emo, here's the problem:

I'll try to keep this short, but I'll have to start from the beginning. Spring this year I was seeing a girl, a fellow biology student, for a few monhs. It was all good, but not super exciting or anything so we decided to call it quits in june. It was a mutual decision and it seemed to be the right one in the long run.

In july, while in Spain, I started to doubt the decision. Not 100% sure why. Maybe I liked her more than I had realized, maybe I was tired of being single? Whatever the cause, it led to me calling her, aranging a meeting and telling her how I felt. She was unsure what to do. We met again a week later and she was still a bit unsure, but I convinced her to give it a try anyway. So we did, and it was good. Until last week.

Last week I became unsure of a situation I had just a short while ago been sure was what I wanted. Really unsure. So unsure infact, that I've contemplated ending the relationship before it can really start (again). I am not sure why I suddenly feel this way. It might have something to do with fear of (any kind of) commitment, or it might not. Maybe I just don't like her as much as I thought I did. Maybe going to the army ads to the uncertainty.

That army bit needs a little more clarification. I'm going in a few weeks and I would want to have this matter resolved one way or another before that. If we break up when I'm in the army, if it's in bad (worse than now) circumstances it would be bad for my moral and motivation. If we break up now and in a few days or weeks I again think differently, that could be pretty bad aswell. At this point I'm not sure I can any longer fully trust my own judgement. We spoke about this today, and I know she doesn't feel the same way. Whatever my decision, I don't want to have her to have to wait for it any longer than possible. That is to say, as little as possible.

I hope all that is coherent enough. It's hard to get all the details in there so feel free to ask any additional questions you might have. What I am asking here is; What do you think I should do?

08-17-2010, 03:27 PM	#1
Osterbaum The revolution will be memed! Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: FIN Posts: 5,967	This is pathetic What is pathetic you ask. The fact that I am about to ask for opinions from you guys about my personal life. Why is that pathetic? Let's just say that the answer lies within in ourselves. I am afraid to say this matter is rather serious. Atleast for me, atleast at the moment. Not so serious that I don't want to see any half-assed jokes in this thread though. In any case, and at the risk of seeming whiny and emo, here's the problem: I'll try to keep this short, but I'll have to start from the beginning. Spring this year I was seeing a girl, a fellow biology student, for a few monhs. It was all good, but not super exciting or anything so we decided to call it quits in june. It was a mutual decision and it seemed to be the right one in the long run. In july, while in Spain, I started to doubt the decision. Not 100% sure why. Maybe I liked her more than I had realized, maybe I was tired of being single? Whatever the cause, it led to me calling her, aranging a meeting and telling her how I felt. She was unsure what to do. We met again a week later and she was still a bit unsure, but I convinced her to give it a try anyway. So we did, and it was good. Until last week. Last week I became unsure of a situation I had just a short while ago been sure was what I wanted. Really unsure. So unsure infact, that I've contemplated ending the relationship before it can really start (again). I am not sure why I suddenly feel this way. It might have something to do with fear of (any kind of) commitment, or it might not. Maybe I just don't like her as much as I thought I did. Maybe going to the army ads to the uncertainty. That army bit needs a little more clarification. I'm going in a few weeks and I would want to have this matter resolved one way or another before that. If we break up when I'm in the army, if it's in bad (worse than now) circumstances it would be bad for my moral and motivation. If we break up now and in a few days or weeks I again think differently, that could be pretty bad aswell. At this point I'm not sure I can any longer fully trust my own judgement. We spoke about this today, and I know she doesn't feel the same way. Whatever my decision, I don't want to have her to have to wait for it any longer than possible. That is to say, as little as possible. I hope all that is coherent enough. It's hard to get all the details in there so feel free to ask any additional questions you might have. What I am asking here is; What do you think I should do? __________________ D is for Dirty Commie!