Asking a favor of everyone

[shiney]

Hey all,

This time of year is very difficult on my wife. I'll be very honest with you all, I got involved with someone else last year around this time and today marks the 1 year anniversary where I confessed, ended it and began trying to rebuild my life with Rai. This is the reason I didn't hold the party I specified in my other thread...it's an embarrassing thing to discuss, but is a personal demon that I guess I can't ever get past unless I am honest about it. Yeah I'm a reformed cheater...don't do it people, it only hurts the ones you love. It rewards their love with disregard and dismissal. It's cruelty in its purest form. Never, ever do it, no matter how justified or unhappy you may think you are. Be honest to your goddamn partner. Break up if you have to but don't fuck around.

The favor part...I told her I would do everything I could to try and help her through today since I am stuck at work and I can't be with her. I really wish I could, but I don't have the time off available with some stuff coming up at the end of the month. And she said "You know there's barely anything you can do." She's more or less right, so I'm calling on you guys - if anyone would be so kind, would you be willing to email her at fayn.halenaryn@gmail.com and just say something to the effect of "Your [adjective] husband wants you to know he loves you"? I just want her to have a little bit of happiness through the day and to try and find a way to be there for her in spirit if I can't in person.

Thanks everyone.

For reference, just for today to prove exactly what kind of day it's going to be, our new kitten just took a huge steaming crap on our bedspread and it leaked through to the mattress.

[Magic_Marker]

Don't worry, I included Lolcats.

Everything is all better.

[shiney]

She does like cute pictures of small furry animals.

[krogothwolf]

So, wait you want us all to do this randomly?

Sweet.

If the kitten did it on your side of the bed, that would be even more awesome!

[shiney]

Yeah I'd have it coming. Believe me, I've been beating myself up (and she has too) for the past year, so.

Eh. It's not like I have much credibility anyways. I appreciate anyone who is willing to help me with this.

[krogothwolf]

Originally Posted by shiney

Yeah I'd have it coming. Believe me, I've been beating myself up (and she has too) for the past year, so.

Eh. It's not like I have much credibility anyways. I appreciate anyone who is willing to help me with this.

You know what, at least you fessed up about it and didn't deny it or anything and then tried to make it better and rebuild your life. Besides sometimes the stupid male instinct to bang females overrides your brain going "NO NO NO NO". Everyone gets weak about things sometimes.

Though, I have to warn you, my friends wife hasn't let him up for cheating on her and that happened 10 years ago, so you're going to hear about this a lot( and lose a lot of silly and pointless arguments because she'll probably bring it up just to win, regardless of how irrelevant it is to the argument.)

I could add a cute wittle picture of Annabel in the e-mail to make her smile.(Though the little brat puked on another fucking phone...my wife's this time.)

[Borealis]

Emailed her. I hope it's going well so far!
Kitten crap could be a good omen! Think positively, damn it!

[shiney]

Fortunately it never got physical - it was a colleague through work but in another state - but it was emotional and spiritual and I think that was actually far more devastating to Nikki. I'm doing everything I can to make up for it. Thanks to you guys for support/etc.

Yeah it's been extremely difficult on her though. I don't expect to hear the end of it for some time, but she has come tremendously far, all things considered. She didn't have much self-esteem beforehand so I was instrumental in crippling that...but she's really impressed me and made me proud. You ever get that feeling where you really actually feel like you don't deserve someone's love? Yeah I've felt that a lot of times after what I did, but she still loves me.

It could be a lot worse.

[Sky Warrior Bob]

I really like to hit an audiobook when I'm really depressed & at odds. Audible.com usually has a deal for new members, of a free trial audiobook. If you want a recommendation, I'd suggest any of the Dresden books by Jim Butcher.

The entire series is up on Audible, and they are all read rather excellently by James Marsters.

I'd send Rai an e-mail, but after a few attempts to put something together. It just sounded too awkward each time.

SWB

[krogothwolf]

Yeah, so I sent her one with a little help from Annabel! I think it's pretty cheesy though, but funny.