Is this normal? (warning: gonna get abit dark)

Aerozord · 10-05-2015, 03:16 PM

I normally do not like sharing stuff like this because it just screams pathetic cry for attention to me and I hate causing distress in others. I live my life with the idea that my problems are MY problems. So I keep them to myself

Still I had gotten curious about something I've noticed with myself and if this happens to other people.

One of the most calming fantasies I have, is dying. I just picture my life ending in one way or another and I feel, I wouldn't say happy, but like relieved or content. Its similar to how I feel if I imagine something like winning the lottery, just, "this is great all my problems are over" or "yea it would be really nice if that happened to me." Being killed isn't something I worry about as much as dream about. Its my happy thought when things are especially rough

I'm not capable of killing myself of course, so please no one think thats even possible. But its one of those things like, I find it calming that the option is there. So thought I'd ask if its normal to find the thought of dying pleasant

phil_ · 10-05-2015, 05:08 PM

I think pausing to consider one's mortality has a way of changing one's perspective for a bit. It makes perfect sense for it to be a calming thought, along the lines of "This too shall pass." So, while it's not "normal," liking Big Bang Theory is normal, so normal is not a useful word here. Is it healthy? I say it is.

All of that, of course, assumes that one doesn't go beyond "This sucks, dying might be nice," to actual suicidal thoughts. Then that's clearly maladaptive, which is my line in the sand for unhealthy. Not that suicide arises from a train of thoughts anything like that, I just don't want anyone to think I'm glorifying completing suicide as an out for having a shitty time.

Nique · 10-06-2015, 01:48 AM

I think there is a part of everyone that accepts and maybe even looks forward to death. That doesn't mean that your entire 'you' actively seeks it. Probably this is normal? But keep an eye on that impulse or feeling, at least.

shiney · 10-07-2015, 01:29 PM

I have felt the same way on several occasions. It is a profound sense of relief; all the concerns, the worries, the struggles are no more. So I understand it.

10-05-2015, 03:16 PM	#1
Aerozord So we are clear Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Former murder capital of the world Posts: 13,824	Is this normal? (warning: gonna get abit dark) I normally do not like sharing stuff like this because it just screams pathetic cry for attention to me and I hate causing distress in others. I live my life with the idea that my problems are MY problems. So I keep them to myself Still I had gotten curious about something I've noticed with myself and if this happens to other people. One of the most calming fantasies I have, is dying. I just picture my life ending in one way or another and I feel, I wouldn't say happy, but like relieved or content. Its similar to how I feel if I imagine something like winning the lottery, just, "this is great all my problems are over" or "yea it would be really nice if that happened to me." Being killed isn't something I worry about as much as dream about. Its my happy thought when things are especially rough I'm not capable of killing myself of course, so please no one think thats even possible. But its one of those things like, I find it calming that the option is there. So thought I'd ask if its normal to find the thought of dying pleasant __________________ "don't hate me for being a heterosexual white guy disparaging slacktivism, hate me for all those murders I've done."

10-05-2015, 05:08 PM	#2
phil_ Just sleeping Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: At home, probably in bed. Posts: 6,482	me 2 I think pausing to consider one's mortality has a way of changing one's perspective for a bit. It makes perfect sense for it to be a calming thought, along the lines of "This too shall pass." So, while it's not "normal," liking Big Bang Theory is normal, so normal is not a useful word here. Is it healthy? I say it is. All of that, of course, assumes that one doesn't go beyond "This sucks, dying might be nice," to actual suicidal thoughts. Then that's clearly maladaptive, which is my line in the sand for unhealthy. Not that suicide arises from a train of thoughts anything like that, I just don't want anyone to think I'm glorifying completing suicide as an out for having a shitty time. __________________ Be T-Rexcellent to each other, tako.

10-07-2015, 01:29 PM	#4
shiney Derrrrrrrrrrrrrp. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The land of fartz and buttz Posts: 8,266	I have felt the same way on several occasions. It is a profound sense of relief; all the concerns, the worries, the struggles are no more. So I understand it. __________________ boop