Dating - Page 7

Ecks · 05-26-2010, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by EvilEarl

That's good news, keep doing the right things. Just don't let her know about your NPF activity.

If you do or she finds out anyway, ya might wanna change yer sig.

Uh, this. Yeah, I'm pretty sure seeing something about "tasty penises" in your sig (regardless if it is a quote from Lyaer or not) might perhaps throw her off of your apparent heterosexuality. Then you get to enjoy the dreaded FRIENDZONE.

Oh, perhaps I should be on-topic for once. Very well. Dating.

I'm in a steady relationship at the moment, going on three years. Granted, this wasn't a workplace romance, or a friendly-face-at-the-bar sorta thing, but whatever.

The important things to remember!

Confidence. Totally. Crank that shit up to eleven. Women love a confident man.

To Thine Own Self Be True. Shakespeare was right about this, centuries before the modern dating scene. I can't stress this one enough, if you have to be someone other than you... this chick isn't going to like you. She may like whoever you're pretending to be, but once she sees through the facade, nice knowing you.

As others have said, find a balance in the conversation. Don't talk about yourself the whole time, but don't let her hog the conversation either, or she will start to think you're not interested in actually conversing with her.

Another thing to consider is that sometimes differences are a good thing. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is exactly like you, you already have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Find someone who has a couple of things in common, and also some things that are different about her in contrast to you. Look for someone who complements you.

Yeah that last one was just dating advice in general.

Also... sex. Uh, that's a ways off. Sorry to burst most of the rest of your bubbles as far as your unrepentant machismo goes, but unless she's looking and interested in a romp in the sack right off the bat (which, most girls won't be), she needs a massive amount of time to gauge whether you're a person she can trust enough to let you in, emotionally AND physically. Where the word 'massive' is a variable depending on her temperament.

Once she DOES decide she's up for it, use a condom, brah. Contraceptives aren't 100% effective, and I highly doubt they will be anytime soon. I'll give you an example. My nephew was conceived whilst his mother was using a contraceptive. Of the 99.999999999% variety.

Okay, I suppose I'm done talking now. I might edit this post with more stuff that seems like wisdom but is really just good old common sense.

Bob The Mercenary · 05-26-2010, 06:29 PM

That girl will never see this site. Never.

Wigmund · 05-26-2010, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Bob the Mercenary

That girl will never see this site. Never.

You know this guarantees she will Bob. One way or the other she will find these forums.

Aldurin · 05-26-2010, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Bob the Mercenary

That girl will never see this site. Never.

What if I e-mail her a link to your profile?

Ecks · 05-26-2010, 06:42 PM

Here's a new idea, Bob.

NEVER TELL EE ANYTHING EVER AGAIN.

tacticslion · 05-26-2010, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by krogothwolf

There, fixed that for you Tactics!

That's what I said, isn't it?

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Originally Posted by EckScizor

Another thing to consider is that sometimes differences are a good thing. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is exactly like you, you already have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Find someone who has a couple of things in common, and also some things that are different about her in contrast to you. Look for someone who complements you.

This is really what dating is about - finding someone you can spend your life with. That's why it's best to take things slow and easy, and to have fun in friendly ways. If you can't be friends you can't be life-partners.

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Originally Posted by EckScizor

Also... sex. Uh, that's a ways off. Sorry to burst most of the rest of your bubbles as far as your unrepentant machismo goes, but unless she's looking and interested in a romp in the sack right off the bat (which, most girls won't be), she needs a massive amount of time to gauge whether you're a person she can trust enough to let you in, emotionally AND physically. Where the word 'massive' is a variable depending on her temperament.

Go in thinking like this. Even if it's not true (she's got a massive sexual desire for you) start by thinking this way, and really behaving this way. Generally showing your commitment to her without demanding something so intimate from her tells her that you're interested in her for more than just what you can get out of. As the right-wing hyper-fundie nut job that I am, I advise against sex outside of marraige period, but I know you're going to do your own thing. Simply be good and kind to her, and don't rush or force things. Learn to know if you can choose to love her - if you can choose to accept that she's not perfect and will have flaws - and you get to know and accept those flaws - and you can say, "despite anything that might ever come up, I won't cheat on her, leave her, or hate her" than you're good. That's also some of your maturity too - don't force her to be "perfect" - you've got to make that decision. But that's probably a long way off. Right now, just relax, enjoy time with her, and see if you'll ever get there.

Also - it's virtually guaranteed that she will see this site now. Good job, Bob. Good job.

Aldurin · 05-26-2010, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by EckScizor

Here's a new idea, Bob.

NEVER TELL EE ANYTHING EVER AGAIN.

Don't bother, I'll plant an alternate account in here anyway if I have to. Might as well save the suspense and not try to hide it.

Rejected Again · 05-27-2010, 02:41 AM

What if I bribe POS to IP ban you from these convos? POS does bans for 75 cents a pop.

Jagos · 05-27-2010, 09:11 AM

I heard he does BJs for a nickel.

That's a pretty hefty discount!

batgirl · 05-27-2010, 10:31 AM

Bob, I've met you and hung out with you. You're a nice guy and you're polite. Be that. Don't be a douche nugget and don't be an egotistical prick and you will be fine. Be yourself and this girl would be stupid to not want to date you.

As for the date, lunch is good. If you want to play it safe, ask her out to coffee after work one day as a "1st official date." If you're feeling a bit more bold, go for drinks at a nice bar (or a sports bar, depending how she is) that isn't full of frat boys posturing about their cock sizes. Show a genuine interest in getting to know her more.

As for workplace relationships, just don't talk about it at work. Your relationship is your business. I know people who are cool with them and others who tell you not to "dip the pen in company ink" so to speak. As long as you keep your stuff to yourself and not let any of it affect your work ethic, you should be fine.

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batgirl Aim for the top! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Infield Posts: 2,583	Bob, I've met you and hung out with you. You're a nice guy and you're polite. Be that. Don't be a douche nugget and don't be an egotistical prick and you will be fine. Be yourself and this girl would be stupid to not want to date you. As for the date, lunch is good. If you want to play it safe, ask her out to coffee after work one day as a "1st official date." If you're feeling a bit more bold, go for drinks at a nice bar (or a sports bar, depending how she is) that isn't full of frat boys posturing about their cock sizes. Show a genuine interest in getting to know her more. As for workplace relationships, just don't talk about it at work. Your relationship is your business. I know people who are cool with them and others who tell you not to "dip the pen in company ink" so to speak. As long as you keep your stuff to yourself and not let any of it affect your work ethic, you should be fine.